LGBTQ Dictionary

The ABC's of LGBTQ

A

Abroromantic | Abrosexual
[ab-row-roh-man-tik] | adj. (abromantic people)
fluid romantic or sexual attraction.

Advocate
[ad-vuh-kit] | noun (advocates)
A person or group that aims to influence political and public policies and opinions of a group.

Aegosexual (Autochorissexual)
[unknown] | adj
Feels arousal but does not want to participate in intercourse.

AFAB
[a f a b] | abbr.
Assigned female at birth.

AMAB
[a m a b] | abbr.
Assigned male at birth.

Agender
[ay jen-der] | adj. (agender people)
Someone who identifies without a gender.

Aggressive
[uh-gres-iv] | noun
A person who is female-bodied and identified, who prefers presenting as masculine. This term is commonly used in urban communities of color.

Akoisexual | Akoiromantic
[ă-key-oh-sexual] | adj.
Feels sexual or romantic attraction but does not want it reciprocated (lithrosexual/lithroromantic).

Aliagender
[ah-lee-uh-jen-der] | adjective (aliagender people)
Someone who defines their gender as “other” than a man or a woman. It was coined as a way to talk about a third gender without appropriating the term Third Gender from other cultures.

Allosexism
[al-low-seks-is-mm] | noun
The system of discrimination and exclusion that oppresses asexual people.

Allosexual
[al-low-sek-shoo-uh l] | adj.
Sexual people opposite of asexual.

Ally | Allyship
[al-ahy] | noun (allies)
Someone who advocates for and supports members of a community other than their own.

Androgyny
[an-druh-jahyn] | noun (androgynes)
A person appearing and/or identifying as neither a man nor woman, presenting as gender neutral or a mix of gender.

Androgynous
[an-droj-uh-nuh s] | adjective (androgynous people)
A blend of other genders; a person whose gender androgynous might refer to themselves as an androgyne.

Androsexual | Androphilic
[an-druh-sek-shoo-uh l] [an-druh-fil-ik] | adjective (androsexual people, androphilic people)
An attraction to men or masculine presenting people.

Aromantic (Aro)
[ey-roh-man-tik] | adjective (aromantic people)
Having no romantic attraction to any gender.

Asexual
[ey-sek-shoo-uh l] | adjective (asexual people)
Having no sexual attraction to any gender.Some asexual people desire romantic relationships, while others do not. Asexuality can be considered a spectrum, with some asexual people experiencing desire for varying types of intimacy. This desire can fluctuate over time. Asexuality is distinct from celibacy, which is the deliberate refraining from sexual activity. Asexual people experience high levels of invisibility and trivialization.

Assumed Gender
[uh-soomd-jen-der] | noun (assumed genders)
The gender a person is assumed to be by society, based on their sex assigned at birth and/or their gender presentation.

B

Bear
[bair] | noun (bears)
A gay man who is often larger and has more body hair.

Bicurious
[bahy-kyoo r-ee-uh s] | adjective (bicurious people)
A heterosexual person who is interested in having a sexual experience with a partner of the same sex.
A gay person who is interested in having a sexual experience with a partner of the different sex.

Bigender
[bahy-jen-der] | adjective (bigender people)
A person whose gender identity is a combination of masculine and feminine.

Binder
[bahyn-der] | noun (binders)
A piece of clothing that people wear to flatten their chest. Mostly used for transmasculine and androgynous identifying people.

Binding
[bahyn-ding] | verb
Compressing one’s chest to create a more androgynous or masculine appearance.

Biological Sex/SAAB/ Sex Assigned At Birth
[bahy-uh-loj-i-kuh l seks] | noun
An individual’s anatomy as female, male or intersex. Gender is usually assigned by biological sex at birth. This term has become out dated. The preferred term is sex assigned at birth.

Biphobia
[bahy-foh-bee-uh] | noun
Dislike or prejudice against bisexual people.

Bisexual | Biromantic
[bahy-sek-shoo-uh l] | adjective (bisexual people)
(bi) An umbrella term for people who are sexually and emotionally attracted to more than one gender.
A person who is sexually or romantically attracted to two genders.

Black Market Hormones
[blak mahr-kit hawr-mohnz] | noun
Hormones purchased without a prescription.

Breast Construction
[brest kuh n-struhk-shuh n] | noun
A gender-affirming, feminizing, top surgery that enlarges one’s breasts.

BlaQ | BlaQueer
[blak | blak kweer] | noun
A person who is of Black/African descent and/or from the African diaspora who recognize their queer identity as a salient identity attached to their blackness.

Boi
[boi] | noun (bois)
Transmen, studs, doms, butches, tomboys, queens, and all self-identified bois and queers of color.

Bottom Surgery
[bot-uh m sur-juh-ree] | noun (bottom surgeries)
Genital surgeries such as vaginoplasty, phalloplasty, or metoidioplasty.

Boydyke
[boi daik] | noun (a boydykes)
A cisgender boy or man who is primarily attracted to women who identify as lesbians

Butch
[boo ch] | noun (butches)
Describes gender expressions and/or social and relationship roles that are perceived as being masculine, or refers to a person who embodies these qualities. Might be trans, but not necessarily.

Bussy
[boo s-ee] | noun (bussies)
A boy pussy, an anus. This term is used mostly by cis gay men.
Can be derogatory.

C

CDFAB
[C D F A B] | abbr.
Coercively assigned female at birth. This is a term used by some transgender people to explain their feelings towards their assigned gender.

CDMAB
[C D M A B] | abbr
Coercively assigned male at birth. This is a term used by some transgender people to explain their feelings towards their assigned gender.

Celibacy
[sel-uh-buh-see] | noun
Abstinence from sexual activity. A person who is celibate is not necessarily asexual and vice versa.

Cetesexual | Ceteromantic
[seet sek-shoo-uh-l] | adj.
Attraction to non-binary people exclusively (Skoliosexual/Skolioromantic).

Chest Surgery
[chest sur-juh-ree] | noun (chest surgeries)
A gender-affirming, masculinizing, top surgery that removes breast tissue and sculpts remaining tissue into a shape that is typically considered to be more masculine.

Cisgender | Cis | Cissexual
[sis-jen-der] | adjective (cisgender people (not cisgenders))
A person having a gender indentity that matches the one they were assigned sex, non-trans.

Cis-het
[sis-het] | adj.
A person that is cisgender and heterosexual or heteroromantic

Cissexism | Cisgenderism | Cisnormativity
[sis-seks-siz-uh m] | noun
The assumption that all people are cisgender. Also, the belief that cisgender people are superior, and holding people to traditional gender roles and gender expectations.

Cissimilation
[sis-sim-uh-ley-shuh n] | noun
The expectation for and act of trans people, especially trans women, assimilating to cisgender (and often heteronormative) standards of appearance and performance.

Civil Union
[siv-uh l yoon-yuh n] | noun (civil unions)
A legally recognized union of a same-sex couple, with rights like those of marriage.

Clitoral Release
[klit-or-uh l ri-lees] | noun
A gender-affirming, masculinizing, lower surgery to cut ligaments around the clitoris, releasing it from the pubis, giving the shaft more length, thus creating a penis.

Closeted | In The Closet
[kloz-i-tid] | adj
Someone who has not told others about their gender identity or sexual orientation.

Cruising
[krooz- ing] | verb
The act of walking or driving around a locality in search of a sexual partner, usually of the anonymous, casual, one-time variety.

Coming Out
[kuhm-ing-out] | verb
The process an individual goes through when telling another about their gender identity or sexual orientation.
The process of becoming aware of one’s trans identity, accepting it, and/or telling others about it; coming out is also used to refer to disclosing one’s non-heterosexual sexual orientation.

Consent
[kuh n-sent] | verb (consenting)
When someone agrees, gives permission, or says "yes" to activity with other persons. Consent is always freely given and all people in a situation must feel that they can say "yes" or "no" or stop the activity at any point.

Constellation
[kon-stuh-ley-shuh n] | noun (constellations)
A term used to describe the connections of a polyamorous relationship.

Cross-dresser
[kraws-dres er] | noun (cross-dressers)
People who wear clothing traditionally associated with a different gender than their gender; cross-dressers may or may not be trans; ‘cross-dresser’ has generally replaced the term ‘transvestite’, as ‘transvestite’ is considered offensive by many.

Cub
[kuhb] | noun (cubs)
A young bear.

Cultural Competence
[kuhl-cher-uh l kom-pi-tuh ns] | noun
The ability to know one’s culture and to interact effectively with people of different cultures. In a school this includes behaviors, attitudes, policies and structures that enable educators to work effectively cross-culturally.

Cultural Humility
[kuhl-cher-uh l hyoo-mil-i-tee] | noun
An individual’s ability to maintain an interpersonal stance that is open to other cultural identities that are important to an individual

Cupliosexual | Cuplioromantic
[koop-lee-oh-sek-shoo-uh l] | adj. (cupliosexual person)
Desire for a relationship despite lack of any attraction

D

Dead Name
[ded neym] | noun (dead names)
The name given to a transgender person at birth, which they often change when they transition. It should not be used to refer to them. Use the person’s chosen name instead.

Demiboy
[demi-boi] | noun (demiboys)
Describing someone who identifies partially as male or masculine but not wholly.

Demigirl
[demi-gurl] | noun (demigirls)
Describing someone who identifies partially as female or feminine but not wholly.

Demiromantic
[demi-roh-man-tik] | adj.
Only experiences romantic attraction after developing an emotional connection.

Demisexual
[demi-sek-shoo-uh l] | adj. (demisexual people)
A person who does not experience sexual attraction until after developing an emotional connection.

DMAB
[D M A B] | abbr.
Designated Male at Birth

DFAB
[D F A B] | abbr.
Designated Female at Birth

Discrimination
[dih-skrim-uh-ney-shuh n] | noun (discriminating)
Prejudice toward a group or community.

Disorders of Sex Development (DSD)
[DSD] | noun
A reproductive or sexual anatomy that does not closely resemble typical male or female reproductive or sexual anatomy, which may be related to genitalia, secondary sex characteristics, and/or chromosomal make-up; DSD replaced the outdated terms ‘hermaphrodite’, as ‘hermaphrodite’ is considered offensive by many; see also intersex. DSD is different from trans.

Down Low
[doun-loh] | adj.
An individual who identifies as heterosexual and cisgender but has a queer relationship or or engages in queer sexual behaviors.

Drag
[drag] | verb
The act dressing in gendered clothing and adopting gendered behaviors as part of a performance. Drag performances usually mock political and social ideas of gender through parody or simply as entertainment. Drag does not indicate and individuals gender identity or sexuality.

Drag King
[drag king] | noun (drag kings)
Drag kings are performance artists who dress and act in a masculine manner and personify male gender stereotypes as part of their routine. Might be trans, but not necessarily.

Drag Queen
[drag kween] | noun (drag queens)
Drag queens are performance artists who dress and act in a feminine manner and personify female gender stereotypes as part of their routine. Might be trans, but not necessarily.

Dyadic
[dahy-ad-ik] | adj.
Not Intersex

Dyke
[dahyk] | noun (dykes)
A lesbian. This word can be considered offensive. However, some lesbians use it to identify themselves so just ask.

E

Equality
[ih-kwol-i-tee] | noun (equalities)
A state in which everyone is equal. This ignores difference in identity/community and history

Equity/Liberation/Justice
[ek-wi-tee] | noun (equities)
A state in which all marginalized communities are free. This differs greatly from equality.

Emotion Attraction
[ih-moh-shuh-nl uh-trak-shuh n] | noun
When you feel intense emotions about an individual.

En Drab
[en drab] | adj.
A heterosexual man who likes wearing woman’s clothes, but is not currently wearing women’s clothes.

En Femme
[en fem-ee] | adj.
A heterosexual man wearing women’s clothes.

Enby | Enbies | Enbie
[n bee] | noun. (enbies)
Non-binary partner, instead of wife or boyfriend.

Endocrinologist
[en-doh-kruh-nol-uh-jist] | noun (endocronologists)
A doctor specially trained in the study of hormones and their actions and disorders in the body.

F

Facial feminization surgery
[fey-shuh l fem-uh-nahyz-ay-shun sur-juh-ree] | noun
Surgeries that feminize the face, which include Adam’s apple reduction, nose feminization, facial bone reduction, face lift, eyelid rejuvenation, and hair reconstruction.

F2M | FTM
[f t m] | adj. (transmen)
May refer to a person assigned female at birth whose gender is male all or part of the time; transitioning-to-male; female-to-male spectrum.

F2X | FTX
[f t x] | adj. (nonbinary people)
May refer to a person assigned female at birth whose gender is nonbinary all or part of the time; transitioning-to-nonbinary; female-to-nonbinary spectrum.

Fag | Faggot
[fag] | noun (faggots)
A slur for a gay person.

Family
[fam-uh-lee] | noun (families)
The group of people that an individual identifies as family for themselves.

Family of Choice (Chosen Family)
[fam-uh-lee uhv chois] | noun
A person or group of people chosen to be a part of one’s family. This may include significant others, domestic partners, friends, and co-workers.

Feminine
[fem-uh-nin] | adj. (feminine people)
Describes socially and culturally constructed aspects of gender (e.g. roles, behaviour, expression, identity) typically associated with girls and women

Feminine-of-Center
[fem-uh-nin-uhv-sen-ter] | adj.
One who has changed, or is planning to change, their anatomy to reflect their gender identity. Feminine-of-center = transfeminine.

Feminine-Presenting
[fem-uh-nin pri-zent-ing] | adj
An individual who present as traditionally feminine through appearance and mannerisms.

Feminizing Hormone Therapy
[fem-uh-nahyz-ing hawr-mohn ther-uh-pee] | noun
The use of medications (e.g. estrogen, anti-androgens, progestins) to develop physical characteristics that are in line with one’s gender or gender expression, including breast development, more fat on the hips, thighs, and buttocks, and softer skin.

Feminizing Surgery
[fem-uh-nahyz-ing sur-juh-ree ] | noun
Gender-affirming surgical procedures that create physical characteristics reflective of one’s gender identity and/or gender expression, including breast augmentation, vaginoplasty, facial feminization surgery, voice surgery, thyroid cartilage reduction, buttock augmentation/lipofilling, and hair reconstruction.

Femme
[fem or fem-me] | adj
Describes gender expressions and/or social and relationship roles that are perceived as being feminine, or refers to a person who embodies these qualities. Might be trans, but not necessarily.

Finsexual | Gynesexual
[fin-sek-shoo-uh l] | adj.
Sexual attraction to feminine identifying people.

Finromantic
[fin-roh-man-tik] | adj.
Romantic attraction to feminine identifying people.

G

Gaff
[gaf] | noun (gaffs)
An article of clothing used by an individual for tucking their bulge.

Gay
[gey] | adj. (not the Gays™)
A person who identifies as LGBT. This term is usually used by homosexual men.

Gay Straight Alliance (GSA)
[gey streyt uh-lahy-uh ns] | noun
Also Gender Sexuality Alliance. Student-led organizations intended to provide a safe and supportive environment for LGBT2Q+ and questioning youth and their allies; see also QSA.

Gender
[jen-der] | noun (genders)
Socially and culturally constructed roles, behaviours, expressions and identities of girls, women, boys, men, and trans people.
The feeling of being male, female, or neither.

Gender Affirming Surgery
[jen-der uh-furm-ing sur-juh-ree] | noun
Range of surgeries that create physical characteristics that are in line with one’s gender identity, including vaginoplasty, breast augmentation, chest surgery, and phalloplasty; sometimes referred to as gender confirmation surgery (GCS).

Gender Assignment
[jen-der uh-sahyn-muh nt] | noun
A classification of an infant at birth as either male or female.

Gender Bender
[jen-der ben-der] | noun (gender benders)
A person who merges characteristics of gender for the purpose of shocking others, without concern for passing.

Gender Binary
[jen-der bahy-nuh-ree] | noun
A view that there are only two genders (girls/women and boys/men) that are separate and unchanging. Science has agreed that gender is a spectrum.

Gender Creative
[jen-der kree-ey-tiv] | adj (gender creative children)
Refers to people, often children, who identify and express their gender in ways that differ from societal and cultural expectations.Gender Expansive.

Gender Confirmation Surgery | Gender Reassignment Surgery | Sex Reassignment Surgery (GCS, GRS, SRS)
[jen-der kon-fer-mey-shuh n sur-juh-ree] | noun
Refers to a large list of surgeries that transgender people may choose to have to align their body more closely with that of which is typically associated with their gender identity. For a transman, this could mean undergoing top surgery to remove breast.

Gender Diverse
[jen-der dih-vurs] | adj. (gender diverse children)
A person who either by nature or by choice does not conform to gender expectations (i.e. transgender, intersex, genderqueer, ect.) preferable to gender variant because it does not imply a standard normativity.

Gender Dysphoria
[jen-der dis-fawr-ee-uh] | noun
A feeling of discomfort or distress that is associated with a discrepancy between a person’s gender identity and assigned gender. Also, a diagnostic class that focuses on the possible distress arising from a sense of mismatch, one may have about one’s experienced gender versus the one assigned to them at birth.

Gender Expansive
[jen-der ik-span-siv] | adj (gender expansive youth)
An umbrella term used to describe youth that expand gender expression and identity beyond what is expected as gender norms for their society or context. Gender Creative.

Gender Expression | Gender Presentation
[jen-der ik-spresh-uh n] | noun
The way a person expresses their gender identity through clothing, behavior, posture, mannerisms, speech patterns, activities, and more.

Genderfluid | Gender Fluid
[jen-der-floo-id] | adj (genderfluid individuals)
A person whose gender identity shifts whether within or outside of societal gender-based expectations.

Gender Identity Disorder / GID
[jen-der ahy-den-ti-tee dis-awr-der] | noun
A controversial DSM-III and DSM-IV diagnosis given to transgender and other gender-nonconforming people. Because it labels people as “disordered,” Gender Identity Disorder is often considered offensive. The diagnosis is frequently given to children who don’t conform to expected gender norms in terms of dress, play or behavior. Such children are often subjected to intense psychotherapy, behavior modification and/or institutionalization. This term was replaced by the term “gender dysphoria” in the DSM-5.

Gender Identity
[jen-der ahy-den-ti-tee] | noun (gender identities)
An individual’s sense of their own gender. This can align with their gender assigned at birth (cisgender) or not (transgender). Some gender identities include “womyn” “transman” and “agender”.

Gender Marker
[jen-der mahr-ker] | noun
A term some people use for sex marker on identification/documents.

Gender Inclusive | Gender Neutral
[jen-der in-kloo-siv] | verb adj.
Inclusive language to describe relationships (partner instead of husband or boyfriend.), spaces(gender-neutral bathroom), and pronouns (they/them and ze/zer) among other things.

Gender Non-Conforming
[jen-der non-kuh n-fawrm-ing] | adj. (gender non-conforming people)
A person who does not conform to society’s expectation of gender norms based on the gender binary. Also gender outlaws

Gender Normative | Gender Straight
[jen-der nawr-muh-tiv] | adj.
A person who identifies with the expectations of the gender binary.

Gender Norms
[jen-der nawrms] | noun
The assignment of gender roles to an individual based on their sex assigned at birth.

Gender Outlaw
[jen-der out-law] | noun (gender outlaws)
A person who defies traditional gender roles by refusing to be defined by conventional definitions of man and woman.

Gender Roles | Gender Expectations
[jen-der rohlz] | noun
A social role/expectation associated with the perception of masculinity or femininity.

Gender Spectrum
[jen-der spek-truh m] | noun
The concept that gender exists beyond a simple “male/female” binary model, but instead exists on an infinite continuum that transcends the two. Some people fall towards more masculine or more feminine aspects, some people move fluidly along the spectrum, and some identify off the spectrum entirely.

Gender Variant
[jen-der vair-ee-uh nt] | adj. (gender variant people)
A term used in the medical community to describe youth whose gender expression does not align to their assigned gender. People outside of the medical community instead use “gender expansive” or “gender creative”.

Genderf*ck
[jen-der fuhk] | noun
The idea of playing with “gender cues” to purposely confuse stereotypical gender expression.

Genderism
[jen-der-iz-uh-m] | noun
The bias of one gender to another.

Genderless
[jen-der-les] | adj. (genderless people)
An individual who identifies without a gender.

Genderqueer
[jen-der-kweer] | adj. (genderqueer people)
An individual who identifies as between or beyond or a combination of genders. Some genderqueer people identify under the transgender umbrella while others do not. Some gender queer identities include Having an overlap or indefinite line between gender identity, having two or more genders (bi-gender, tri-gender, pangender), having no gender (agender, nongendered, genderless, genderfree, neutrois.) moving between genders or having a fluctuating gender identity (gender fluid), being third gender or other-gendered, a category which includes but does not place a name to their gender.

Grayromantic
[grey-roh-man-tik] | adj. (grayromantic people (not grayromantics))
A person who may feel sexual attraction but usual does not. The may also experience sexual attraction but have a low drive.

Graysexual
[grey-sek-shoo-uh-l] | adj. (graysexual people (not graysexuals))
A person who may feel sexual attraction but usual does not. The may also experience sexual attraction but have a low drive.

H

Hate Crime
[heyt krahym] | noun
A crime motivated by the actual or perceived race, color, religion, national origin, ethnicity, gender, disability, sexual orientation or gender identity of any person.

Hermaphrodite
[hur-maf-ruh-dahyt] | noun
An outdated term that was historically used to label people who have a reproductive or sexual anatomy that does not closely resemble typical male or female reproductive or sexual anatomy, which may be related to genitalia, secondary sex characteristics, and/or chromosomal make-up; replaced by the more respectful term, ‘disorders of sex development’ or ‘DSD’.

Heteroflexible
[het-uh-roh-flek-suh-buh-l] | adj (heteroflexible people (not heteroflexibles))
Usually attracted to the “opposite” gender but occasionally feels attraction to the same gender.

Heteronormativity| Heterosexism
[het-uh-roh-nawr-muh-tiv-it-tee] | noun
The assumption that everyone is straight therefore marginalizing people who identify as anything other than heterosexual.

Heterosexual Privilege
[het-uh-roh-sek-shoo-uh-l priv-uh-lij] | noun
Benefits derived automatically by being (or being perceived as) heterosexual that are denied to gays, lesbians, bisexuals, queers and all other non-heterosexual sexual orientations.

Heterosexuality | Heterosexual
[het-uh-roh-sek-shoo-al-i-tee] | adj. (heterosexual people (not heterosexuals))
A person who identifies as straight.

Homophobia
[hoh-muh-foh-bee-uh] | noun
Intolerance towards queer people or the homosexual feelings within oneself. The assumption that heterosexuality is superior.

Homosexual
[hoh-muh-sek-shoo-uh-l] | noun (homosexual people (not homosexuals))
A person who has sexual, emotional, and/or romantic attractions to the same gender.

Hormone Readiness Assessment
[hawr-mohn red-ee-nis uh-ses-muh-nt] | noun
Evaluation conducted by a healthcare professional to determine if a patient is ready to begin hormone therapy.

HRT | HT | Hormone Replacement Therapy
[h r t] | noun
A medical transition some transgender people go through to help their bodies align with the gender they identify as.

I

Inclusive Language
[in-kloo-siv lang-gwij] | noun (using inclusive language)
Using language that is inclusive of all genders and sexualities. Such as saying all instead of guys and gals.

Intersectionality
[in-ter-sek-shuh-nal-i-tee] | noun
The idea that multiple identities intersect to create a whole that is different from its distinct parts. To understand someone, it is important to acknowledge that each of their identities is important and inextricably linked with all of the others. These can include identities related to gender, race, socioeconomic status, ethnicity, nationality, sexual orientation, religion, age, mental and/or physical ability, and more.

Intergender
[in-ter-jen-der] | adj (intergender people(not intergenders))
Someone whose identity is between genders and/or a combination of gender identities and expressions.

Internalized Homophobia
[in-tur-nl-ahyz-d hoh-muh-foh-bee-uh] | noun
The fear that one’s self is queer.

Internalized Oppression
[in-tur-nl-ahyz-d uh-presh-uh-n] | noun
When an oppressed person comes to believe, accept or live out stereotypes and misinformation about their group.

Intersex
[in-ter-seks] | adj (intersex people (not intersexes))
Describing a person with a less common combination of hormones, chromosomes, and anatomy that are used to assign sex at birth. There are many examples such as Klinefelter Syndrome, Androgen Insensitivity Syndrome, and Congenital Adrenal Hyperplasia. Parents and medical professionals usually coercively assign intersex infants a sex and have, in the past, been medically permitted to perform surgical operations to conform the infant’s genitalia to that assignment. This practice has become increasingly controversial as intersex adults speak out against the practice. The term intersex is not interchangeable with or a synonym for transgender (although some intersex people do identify as transgender)

Invisible Minority
[in-viz-uh-buh-l mi-nawr-i-tee] | noun
A group whose minority status is not recognized in the larger community.

J

Jock
[jok] | noun (jocks)
A muscular and athletic gay man with or without body hair.

K

Keyhole procedure
[kee-hohl] | noun
A surgical procedure to remove a female-bodied individuals breast. If you are looking for types of transgender surgeries check out the transgender medical resources page.
Kiki
[kee-kee] | noun
A social gathering, usually for the purpose of casually “kicking back,” spilling tea, and sharing stories. It is historically connected to LGBTQ communities.

L

LatinX | Latin@
[luh-tee-n-x] | adj
A gender-neutral term used to replace the gender-specific Latino or Latina. It can be used to refer to a group of people or to a single person of Latin-American descent.

Lesbian
[lez-bee-uh-n] | noun (lesbians)
A woman attracted to a woman. Transwoman can also identify as lesbian.

Lesbian Baiting
[lez-bee-uh-n beyt-ing] | noun
The heterosexist notion that any woman who prefers the company of woman, or who does not have a male partner, is a lesbian.

Lesbophobia
[lez-boh-foh-bee-uh] | noun
Fear or hatred of, aversion to, and discrimination against lesbians or lesbian behaviour. This can take place from outside of the queer community, but may also be a product of stereotyping, internalized queerphobia, or misogyny within the queer community. An example of this may be a gay man who believes that all lesbians are aggressive.

LGBTQ | GSM | DSG | MOGAI | SAGA
Initialisms that represent the queer community:

LGBTQ
Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, Transgender, Queer or Questioning

LGBTQ2+
An evolving acronym for Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, Trans, Two-Spirit, Queer, and additional identities.

LGBTQQIAPP+
A collection of identities short for lesbian, gay, bisexual, trans, queer, questioning, intersex, asexual, aromantic, pansexual, polysexual (sometimes abbreviated to LGBT or LGBTQ+). Sometimes this acronym is replaced with “queer.” Note that “ally” is not included in this acronym.

GSM
Gender & Sexual Minorities

DSG
Diverse Sexualities and Gender

MOGAI
Marginalized Orientations, Genders, and Intersex.

SAGA
Sexuality and Gender Alliance

Lifestyle
[lahyf-stahyl] | noun
An offensive term used against the LGBT community to degrade their lives. Making it seem as if the LGBT community chooses to be queer.

Lipstick Lesbian
[lip-stik lez-bee-uh-n] | noun (lipstick lesbians)
A woman who likes or has sex with woman but favors glam and traditionally feminine style.

Lithromantic
[lith-roh-man-tik] | adj.
A person who feels romantic love but does not want their feelings to be reciprocated.

Lower Surgery
[loh-er sur-juh-ree] | noun
Umbrella term for gender-affirming surgeries done below the waist, including masculinizing (e.g. hysterectomy, clitoral release, metoidioplasty, and phalloplasty) and feminizing (e.g. orchiectomy and vaginoplasty) surgeries. Also called “bottom surgery”.

M

M2F | MTF
[m t f] | adj (mtf trans person)
May refer to a person assigned male at birth whose gender is female all or part of the time; transitioning-to-female; female-to-male spectrum.

Man
[man] | noun
A human being who self-identifies as a man, based on elements of importance to the individual, such as gender roles, behaviour, expression, identity, and/or physiology.

Masculine
[mas-kyuh-lin] | adj. (masculine people)
Describes socially and culturally constructed aspects of gender (e.g. roles, behaviour, expression, identity) typically associated with boys and men.

Marginalize
[mahr-juh-nl-ahyz] | verb (marginalizing)
Excluding, ignoring, or relegating to the outer edge of a group/society/community.

Masculine presenting
[[mas-kyuh-lin pri-zent-ing] | verb
A presentation of masculine features and/ or mannerisms.

Masculinizing Hormone Therapy
[mas-kyuh-luh-nahyz-ing hawr-mohn ther-uh-pee] | noun
The use of testosterone to develop physical characteristics that are in line with one’s gender identity or gender expression, including more facial hair, more body hair, increased muscle mass, and deepened voice.

Masculinizing Surgeries
[mas-kyuh-luh-nahyz-ing sur-juh-ree] | noun
Gender-affirming surgical procedures that create physical characteristics reflective of one’s gender identity and/or gender expression, including chest surgery, hysterectomy, clitoral release, metoidioplasty, phalloplasty, pectoral implants, liposuction, and lipofilling.

Medical Transition
[med-i-kuh-l tran-zish-uh n] | noun
To undergo medical steps one deems necessary to transition to one’s own sex, for example hormones therapy and/or gender affirming surgery.

Meta | Metoidioplasty
[mee-tuh] | noun
A gender-affirming, masculinizing, lower surgery to create a penis and scrotum, done by cutting ligaments around the clitoris to add length to the shaft, grafting skin around the shaft to create added girth, lengthening the urethra so one can urinate from the shaft, and creating a scrotum.

Metrosexual
[me-troh-sek-shoo-uh l] | noun (metrosexuals)
A young, urban, heterosexual male with liberal political views, an interest in fashion, and a refined sense of taste.

Microaggression
[mahy-kroh-uh-gresh-uh n] | noun
Indirect, subtle, or unintentional discrimination against members of a marginalized group.

Minromantic
[min-roh-man-tik] | adj.
Romantic attraction to masculine identifying people.

Minsexual
[min-sek-shoo-uh-l] | adj.
Sexual attraction to masculine identifying people.

Misgender
[mis-jen-der] | verb
Using the wrong gender or gender pronouns for an individual.

Monogamy
[muh-nog-uh-mee] | noun
The practice or state of being married to one person at a time.

Monosexism
[mon-oh-sek-siz-uh-m] | noun
The belief that heterosexuality or homosexuality is superior to bisexuality or other non-monosexual orientation.

Monoromantic
[mon-oh-roh-man-tik] | adj.
An individual who is only romantically attracted to one gender. Typically, heterosexual or homosexual.

Monosexual | Monoromantic
[mon-oh-sek-shoo-uh-l] | adj.
An individual who is only sexually attracted to one gender. Typically, heterosexual or homosexual.

Monthly Bleeding
[muhnth-lee bleed-ing] | noun
A term for ‘menstrual bleeding’ or ‘period’ used by some trans people.

MSM
[m s m ] | adj.
Medical term. Men who have sex with men. This is a sexual behavior and can be separate from sexual identities. MSM usually refers to biological men.

Minromantic
[min-roh-man-tik] | adj.
Feeling attraction towards multiple genders.

Multisexual
[min-sek-shoo-uh-l] | adj.
Feeling attraction towards multiple genders.

Mx.
[mix or schwa] | noun (Mx. Name)
The gender-neutral title for an individual instead of Mr. Mrs. or Ms

N

Neutrois
[noo-trwah] | adj (neutrois people)
There is no one definition of neutrois, the most common ones are usually neutral-gender, null-gender, neither male not female, genderless, and agender.

Nonbinary | Non-Binary
[non-bahy-nuh-ree] | adj (nonbinary people)
Preferred umbrella term for all genders other than female/male or woman/man, used as an adjective (e.g. Jesse is a nonbinary person). Not all nonbinary people identify as trans and not all trans people identify as nonbinary. Sometimes (and increasingly), nonbinary can be used to describe the aesthetic/presentation/expression of a cisgender or transgender person.

Ninromantic
[nin-roh-man-tik] | adj.
Romantic/Sexual attraction to androgynous or neutral identifying people.

Ninsexual
[nin-sek-shoo-uh-l] | adj.
Romantic/Sexual attraction to androgynous or neutral identifying people.

Non-gestational Mom
[non-je-stey-shuh-n-al mum] | noun
A mother who is biologically related to the child but is not the carrier of the child.

Nonmonosexual
[non-moh-noh-sek-shoo-uh-l] | adj (nonmonosexual people (not nonmonosexuals))
People who are attracted to more than one gender.

Non-op | Non-operative
[non-opp] | adj.
A transgender person choosing not to undergo gender confirmation surgery.

O

On T
[awn tee.] | adj.
A transgender person taking testosterone.

Oophorectomy
[oh-uh-fuh-rek-tuh-mee] | noun
A surgery to remove the ovaries; a gender-affirming, masculinizing lower surgery.

Orchiectomy
[awr-kee-ek-tuh-mee] | noun
A surgery to remove the testicles; a gender-affirming, feminizing, lower surgery.

Oppression
[uh-presh-uh-n] | noun
The belief that masculinity and femininity are rigid, mutually exclusive, categories. Also the idea that men should not display any behaviours or characteristics commonly associated with women, and vice versa.

Outercourse
[ou-ter-kawrs] | noun
Sexual stimulation beyond penetrative intercourse.

Out
[out] | adj.
Refers to a person who self-identifies as LGBTQ in their personal, public, and/or professional lives. Preferred to openly gay.

Outing
[out-ing] | verb
Accidentally or intentionally publicly revealing another person’s sexual orientation or gender identity without their permission. This can cause social, physical, emotional, or economic danger for the person being outed. Outing someone can sometimes be done as an act of hate.

P

Packer | Packing
[pak-er] | noun
An object used to create the shape of a bulge on an individual born with a female body.
Wearing a penile prosthesis.

Padding
[pad-ing] | noun verb
Use of undergarments to create the appearance of larger breasts, hips, and/or buttocks. Includes breast forms.

Pangender | Omnigender
[pan-jen-der | omni-jen-der] | adj. (pangender person)
A non-binary gender expression that refers to a wide range of gender expression in an individual.

Pansexual | Omnisexual
[pan-sek-shoo-uh-l| omni-sek-shoo-uh-l] | adj.
Not limiting oneself to a sexual choice regarding biological sex, gender, or gender identity.
Sometimes, the identity fails to recognize that one cannot know individuals with every existing gender identity.

Partner
[pahrt-ner] | noun
A gender inclusive way of referring to a person’s significant other.

Passing | Blending | Assimilating
[pas-ing] | verb
Being perceived by others as a particular identity/gender or cisgender regardless how the individual in question identifies, e.g. passing as straight, passing as a cis woman, passing as a youth. This term has become controversial as “passing” can imply that one is not genuinely what they are passing as.

Patch
[pach] | noun
Testosterone or estrogen hormone therapy as applied transdermally via a patch adhered to the skin.

Patriarchy
[pey-tree-ahr-kee] | noun
A system of society that men hold more power and all other genders are excluded.

Penis*
[pee-nis] | noun
Penis* (with an asterisk) is used to acknowledge the many different words that are used for this body part: penis, strapless, shenis, peen, etc.

Person of Trans History
[pur-suh-n uhv tranz his-tuh-ree] | adj.
Someone who has transitioned to female or transitioned to male and no longer identifies as trans.

PFLAG
[p- flag] | noun
Parents, Families, and Friends of Lesbians and Gays

PGPs | Preferred Gender Pronouns
[pri-fur-ed jen-der proh-nounz] | noun
This term is now considerd out dated. The new term is just your pronouns. The pronouns an individual used when an individual is being referred to.

ie. Jane uses female pronouns because she identifies as feminine.

Pilipinx
[fil-uh-peen-nex] | adj.
Like Latinx & Latin@, Pilipinx is a gender-neutral term used to replace the gendered words Filipino or Filipina.

Polyamorous
[pol-ee-am-er-uh-s] | adj.
Can be an open relationship or a relationship with multiple partners (see constellation)

Polygender
[pol-ee-jen-der] | adj.
A person whose gender expression contains more than two genders either simultaneously or varying between them.

Polysexual
[pol-ee-sek-shoo-uhl] | adj.
Capable of being attracted to multiple gender(s).

Post-op or Post-operative
[pohst-op] | adj.
A transgender person after undergoing gender confirmation surgery.This term to some is outdated as it implies that a transgender person is only valid if they have surgery. It can also be considered very invasive to ask someone if they are pre-op.

Pride
[prahyd] | noun
The celebration of LGBTQ+ identities, and of the global LGBTQ+ community’s resistance against discrimination and violence. Pride events are celebrated in many countries around the world, usually during the month of June to commemorate the Stonewall Riots that began in New York City in June 1969, a pivotal moment in the modern LGBTQ+ movment.

Primary Care Provider
[prahy-mer-ee kair pruh-vahy-der] | noun
An individual’s main health care provider in non-emergency situations (check ups, referrals); Family Doctor; General Practitioner (GP); Nurse Practitioner (NP).

Privilege
[priv-uh-lij] | noun
Refers to the social, economic and political advantages and power held by people from dominant groups on the basis of attributes such as gender, race, sexual orientation, and social class.

Pre-op or Pre-operative
[pri-op] | adj.
A transgender person before undergoing gender confirmation surgery, implying that they plan on undergoing surgery. This term to some is outdated as it implies that a transgender person is only valid if they have surgery. It can also be considered very invasive to ask someone if they are pre-op.

Pronoun
[proh-noun] | noun
The pronouns an individual uses to be referred to. Such as He/Him/His or They/Them/Their. See a list of pronouns here.

Puberty Blockers
[pyoo-ber-tee blok-erz] | noun
A group of medications for youth that temporarily suppress or inhibit puberty by suppressing the production of sex hormones and preventing development of secondary sexual characteristics.

Q

QTIPOC
[q t i p o c] | abbr.
Acronym for Queer, Trans, and Indigenous People of Colour.

QPOC | QTPOC
[q t p o c] | abbr.
Queer people of color. Queer transgender people of color.

Queer
[kweer] | adj. noun.
An umbrella term for a person who identifies as a part of the LGBT community. This can also be derogatory.
A political statement, as well as a sexual orientation, which advocates breaking binary thinking and seeing both sexual orientation and gender identity as potentially fluid. A simple label to explain a complex set of sexual behaviors and desires. For example, a person who is attracted to multiple genders may identify as queer.

Queerphobia
[kweer-foh-bee-uh] | noun
A term used to include all forms of homophobia, lesbophobia, biphobia and transphobia. The term ‘LGBTphobia’ is also used and may more clearly express the idea of transphobia.

Queerplatonic Relationship
[kweer-pluh-ton-ik ri-ley-shuh-n-ship] | noun
Relationships that are not sexual in but involve very close emotional connections usually more so than a traditionally friendship.

Questioning
[kwes-chuh-ning] | adj.
A person who is questioning their gender or sexual identity.

Quoisexual | Quiromantic
[q sek-shoo-uh-l] | adj.
Not identifying with any existing labels.

Queer Straight Alliance
[kweer streyt uh-lahy-uh ns] | noun
Student-led organizations intended to provide a safe and supportive environment for lesbian, gay, bisexual, trans, Two-Spirit, and queer/questioning youth and their allies; see also GSA.

R

Read As
[red az] | adj.
When someone is correctly assumed to be the wrong gender; this term has replaced the outdated term “to pass” which implied that a person is failing when they are not being read as their correct gender.

Reciproromantic
[ri-sip-ruh-roh-man-tik] | adj.
Only experiencing romantic attraction to someone after realizing they are attracted to you.

Reciprosexual
[ri-sip-ruh-sek-shoo-uh-l] | adj.
Only experiencing sexual attraction to someone after realizing they are attracted to you.

RLT | Real Life Test
[ree-uh-l lahyf test] | noun
A period that a transgender person must identify as their gender before starting hormone replacement therapy or HRT. This is being replaced with the informed consent model.

Romantic Attraction
[roh-man-tik uh-trak-shuh-n] | noun.
An emotional response to be in a romantic relationship with a person. This attraction can be separate from sexual attraction.

S

Salpingectomy
[sal-pin-jek-tuh-mee] | noun
A surgery to remove the Fallopian tubes; a gender-affirming, masculinizing lower surgery.

Self-Identified Man
[self-ahy-den-ti-fahi-d man] | noun
Term used to be inclusive of trans men or trans persons of history who self-identity as men (e.g. this restroom is for self-identified men).

Self-Identified Woman
[self-ahy-den-ti-fahi-d woo m-uh n] | noun
Term used to be inclusive of trans women or trans persons of history who self-identity as women (e.g. this restroom is for self-identified women).

Sex
[seks] | noun
The anatomy that an individual is gendered from at birth. Not to be confused with gender as the two can be separate.

Sex Assignment | Sex Assigned At Birth
[seks uh-sigyn-muh nt] | noun
Legal designation of sex, usually made at birth

Sex Change Operation
[seks cheynj op-uh-rey-shuh-n] | noun
Preferred terms are Sex Reassignment Surgery or Gender Affirming Surgery.

Sex Hormones
[seks hawr-mohn] | noun
Hormones, such as estrogen and testosterone, affecting sexual and reproductive development or function.

Sex Marker
[seks marker] | noun (sex markers)
Legal designation of sex (usually male or female) on official documents, such as government issued identification and birth certificates. Sometimes called gender marker.

Sexual Attraction
[sek-shoo-uh l uh-trak-shuh n] | noun
Sexual desire for an individual.

Sexual Behavior
[sek-shoo-uh l bih-heyv-yer] | noun (sexual behaviors)
The sexual acts that an individual participates in. See MSM and WSW.

Sexual orientation | Sexual Identity | Sexuality
[sek-shoo-uh l awr-ee-uh n-tey-shuh n] | noun
A person’s identity in relation to the gender to which they are attracted. Such as bisexual, and heterosexual.

Sexual Preference
[sek-shoo-uh l pref-er-uh ns] | noun (sexual preferences)
A gender or expression that one prefers to engage with sexually. A person can identify as straight and still prefer “gay sex” as sexual orientation is different than sexual behavior.

SGL | Same Gender Loving
[S G L] | abbr.
Homosexuals and bisexuals in the African American community. Coined by Cleo Manago.

Skoliosexual | Skolioromantic
[skoal lee o sek-shoo-uh l] | adj (skoliosexual people)
An individual who is attracted to transgender and/or gender nonconforming people (Cetesexual/Ceteromantic).

Sodomy Laws
[sod-uh-mee law] | Proper Noun
Were historically used to selectively persecute gay people.

SOFFA
[soh-fuh] | abbr.
Significant others, friends, family, and allies.

Soft Butch
[sawft boo ch] | noun
Used to describe a queer woman who presents masculine, but also slightly feminine. A soft butch may dress in men’s clothing, but have long hair or wear makeup. “Futch” is sometimes also used, although less commonly.

Stone Butch
[stohn boo ch] | noun
Often used to describe a lesbian who presents and identifies firmly as masculine. Stone butch people might also identify as transgender or non-binary, but don’t always. They may also dislike having their genitals touched during sex, but don’t always.

Squish
[skwish] | noun
Platonic/friend crush. When you really want to be close friends with someone.

Stealth
[stelth] | noun, adj.
A transgender person who may be out to close friends but is not out in public spaces.

The practice of living one’s life entirely as one’s gender without disclosing past experiences.

Stem
[stem] | adj.
A person whose gender expression falls somewhere between a stud and a femme

Stonewall
[stohn-wawl] | Proper Noun
An Inn in New York City that has become the landmark, of the LGBT Riots that began the modern gay civil rights movement.

Straight
[streyt] | adj. (straight people not straights™)
A person who identifies as heterosexual.

Stud
[stuhd] | noun (studs)
Soft butch.

Surgical Readiness Assessment
[sur-ji-kuh l red-ee-nis uh-ses-muh nt] | noun
Evaluation conducted by a healthcare professional to determine if a patient is ready to be referred for gender-affirming surgery.

T

T
[Tee] | abbr.
Testosterone.

Third Gender
[thurd jen-der] | adj
A gender that is neither man nor woman. Individuals can categorize themselves or can be categorized by society.

Top Surgery
[top sur-juh-ree] | noun (Top Surgeries)
A gender confirmation surgery that transgender people may choose to have. For transmen, it is the removal of breast.

Tranny
[tran-ee] | noun (Trannies)
While some transgender people use the word tranny to describe their gender, most find it highly offensive — a derogatory slur.

TPOC
[T P O C] | noun (Trans Person of Color)
Trans People of Color.

Traditional Sexism
[truh-dish-uh-nl sek-siz-uh m] | noun
The belief that male gender identities and masculine gender expressions are superior to female and/or feminine ones.

Trans*
[tranz] | adj (trans* person)
Used as an umbrella term for the transgender genderqueer and gender nonconforming communities.

Trans
[tranz] | adj (trans person)
Trans is an umbrella term that describes a wide range of people whose gender and/or gender expression differ from their assigned sex and/or the societal and cultural expectations of their assigned sex; includes people who are androgyne, agender, bigender, butch, CAFAB, CAMAB, cross-dresser, drag king, drag queen, femme, FTM, gender creative, gender fluid, gender non-conforming, genderqueer, gender variant, MTF, pangender, questioning, trans, trans man, trans woman, transfeminine, transgender, transmasucline, transsexual, and two-spirit.

Transmisogyny
[tranz-mi-soj-uh-nee] | noun
Originally coined by the author Julia Serano, this term designates the intersectionality of transphobia and misogyny and how they are often experienced as a form of oppression by trans women.

Transgender Man/ Transmale/Transman/ Transboy
[trans-jen-der man] | noun (transmen)
An individual who was not assigned male at birth but identifies as a male.

Transgender Woman | Transwoman | Transfemale | Transgirl
[trans-jen-der woo-muh-n] | noun (transwomen)
An individual who was not assigned female at birth but identifies as a female.

Transgender | Trans | TG
[trans-jen-der] | adj (trans people, not transgendered)
A person who identifies as something other than their gender assigned at birth.

Transition | Transitioning
[tran-zish-uh n] | noun, verb
Refers to the process during which trans people may change their gender expression and/or bodies to reflect their gender, including changes in physical appearance (hairstyle, clothing), behaviour (mannerisms, voice, gender roles), identification (name, pronoun, legal details), and/or medical interventions (hormone therapy, gender-affirming surgery).

Transphobia
[trans-foh-bee-uh] | noun
An irrational fear or hatred of transgender people.

Systemic violence against trans people, associated with attitudes such as fear, discomfort, distrust, or disdain. This word is used similarly to homophobia, xenophobia, misogyny, etc.

Transsexual
[trans-sek-shoo-uh l ] | adj (transsexual people)
A person who experiences a mismatch of the sex assigned at birth and how they identify.This term can be considered derogatory.

Triangle
[trahy-ang-guh l] | noun (triangles)
A symbol of remembrance. Gay men in the Nazi concentration camps were forced to wear the pink triangle as a designation of being homosexual. Women who did not conform to social roles, often believed to be lesbians, had to wear the black triangle. The triangles are worn today as symbols of freedom, reminding us to never forget.

Trigender
[trahy jen-der] | adj. (trigender people)
Someone who experiences three distinct genders, either all at once or is moving between them.

Tucking
[tuhk ing] | verb (tucked)
Concealing one’s masculine bulge with the use of a gaff or other technique.

Twink
[twingk] | noun (twinks)
A slender young gay man with no body hair.

Twunk
[twungk] | noun (twunks)
A slender but muscular gay man with no body hair.

Two-spirit
[too-spir-it] | noun
(American Indian | First Nations | Native American)
A male-bodied or female-bodied person with a masculine or feminine essence. Two Spirit can cross social gender roles, gender expression, and sexual orientation.

U

Ursula
[ur-suh-luh] | noun (ursulas)
Lesbians, in bear culture

V

Vagina*
[vuh-jahy-nuh] | noun (vaginas*)
Vagina* (with a asterisk) is used to acknowledge the many different words that are used for this body part: front hole, etc

Vaginoplasty
[văj′ə-nə-plăs′tē] | noun
A gender-affirming, feminizing, lower surgery to create a vagina and vulva (including mons, labia, clitoris, and urethral opening) and inverting the penis*, scrotal sac and testes.

Vocal Feminization Surgery
[voh-kuh l fem-uh-nahyz sur-juh-ree] | noun
Feminizing surgery to elevate the pitch of the voice.

W

Wolf
[woo lf] | noun (wolves)
A lean, muscular, semi-hairy gay man.

Womyn | Womxn
[woo m-ih n] | noun (womyn)
A form of empowerment to move away from “men” in the “traditional” spelling of women.

WSW
[w s w] | abbr.
Medical term. a woman who has sex with women. This is a sexual behavior and can be separate from sexual identities. WSW usually refers to biological females.

Z

Zucchini
[zoo-key-nee] | noun (zucchini)
A partner in a queer-platonic relationship.

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